Jul 06 2007
Hang In There
Its pains me when I see friends suffer from heartbreaks. I wish I had a magic wand so I can just swish it over them, and everything will be all right again. But I guess I’m just up to wishing that since the hard fact of this mystery we call Life is that each and every one of us has to go through heartbreak at one time or another. I guess we have to grieve and feel the pain first, all the stages, in order to for us to move on. Just like a fever, it must run its course before it can totally leave the system.
I’m sure you have experienced it also – witnessing a friend going through a tough time, may it be from a lost love, a confused stage in a relationship, or issues that they don’t know how to deal with. Being a friend to this person, you try to listen, and let him/her unload the problems. You try to hear out what happened, what went wrong, and what made it become the problem it is at the moment. You give suggestions, you ask questions hoping it may lead to realizations. You give your inputs on what you think should be done. But the bottom line is you can only do so much.
You can tell that person what you think; you can sympathize with that person, and maybe give advice on what to do next. But that’s all. It’s still up to the person to do the next move – if he/she is lucky enough to be able to have that chance to do something. But what if he can’t? What if there it’s not up to him at all? What if there is really no other way than to wait, and let time determine the next move?
Ah, time. Strange thing, time. It’s usually what we always use when we are uncertain with any answers, and don’t know where to proceed next. “Lets wait and see” – that’s what we usually say, and do. Cliché? Maybe. Sometimes it gets so frustrating to just wait, doesn’t it? But in the end, you’d realize that it’s the only thing you can do – to wait and let Time take its course. As my friend/therapist/sanity-saver, Dr. Mikee said- things have a way of falling into place.
I just wish I could do more than listen, and give advice. It does break my heart to see you like this, my friend. But I guess that’s all I can do really. The rest is up to you. Just be strong, and hang in there…
